Saturday, November 12, 2016

What is Death.

The 5 stages of grief and loss are: 1. Denial and isolation; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance.

9/11/2016. 3.20 a.m. Woke up in panic. Window near bed was knocked and rattled hard. Faz told me to look at my phone.

1. Denial. 10 minutes it took me to read and re-read and try to understand what they wrote. Hands shaking. I sat down. Called Cikna.

2. Anger. 30 minutes of accusing Abah. Did he asked Mak to do something tiring yesterday? Packed and started car to come home. Angry at other people sitting near Mak's body. No that's my mom and that's my place.

3. Bargaining. This I will always do. I should have been home already when Mak asked "yah ko balik kan malam ni?" "Minggu ni balik?". I should have done it on the spot when she asked me to help cut her nails. Should have woke up earlier to help tidy up her edible garden backyard. Should have massaged her more or at least repair her massage chair. Should have taken her to all of her medical check ups. Should have cooked for her more. Should have washed her clothes more. Should have treat her better. Should have love her better. Should have hug her longer the last time I hugged her. Ya Allah, Mak ampunkan salah silap, ampunkan segala kekurangan layanan, halalkan segala makan minum dari kecik sampai la besar ni. How they say you can feel and miss a person's warm hug. How many times i stopped myself from lying down next to her instead of just kissing and hugging her.

4. Depression. How to study and justify why you're feeling sad? It comes and it goes. At times it's bad and at times it's good  remembering the sadness and memories with and of her. Was she happy?

5. Acceptance. Accept what? She left this world, and her soul is going to the next. We lost her living body, buried in plot 219 at the cemetery. Accept that I can never again talk to her in this world, never hug her again, never to have her here again. Accept that the people coming were all here for her, people that her good heart had touched. People that although not our blood-related family, might have played a role in her life. The life when I was not there with her during weekdays. The life and her social circle that I was not part of. Accept to let them say their du'a and goodbyes as well. Accept that she has lived a full life and it was time for her to go. I still want her but it is Allah's will.

What is death.
But a separation of this material world.

Ya Allah ampunkanlah dosa ibuku Hajjah Futor binti Haji Anuar, terimalah segala amal ibadatnya. Lepaskanlah ibuku daripada sebarang seksa kubur dan api neraka. Masukkanlah beliau ke dalam golongan hamba-Mu yang soleh. Permudahkanlah urusannya di akhirat dan tempatkanlah ibuku di jannah, ya Allah. Semoga ibuku damai di sana.

Thursday, March 03, 2016

Simple Microwaved Chocolate Cake

Ok so back from office this evening, had the craving to eat something chocolatey. So i whip up this simple microwaved chocolate cake in less than 5 minutes. Honest to god it takes less than that (disclaimer: given i move pretty fast like lipas kudung in the kitchen and all the baking things are within easy reach)

Really simple recipe:
1/4 cup oil
1/4 cup brown sugar
1 egg
1/4 cup flour
1/4 cup cocoa powder
1/2 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp vanilla essence
1 satchet 3-in-1 instant coffee (optional)

- mix everything in a microwave-safe container (i do it by hand using spoon je dalam tupperware)
- microwave for 1:30 (90 seconds)
- ?
- profit

- to make it ala #batikfudgebrownies i put some biskut marie pieces/chunks in the batter before putting it into microwave.
- since i eat it with cream cheese frosting, i reduced the sugar to half of its ratio (1/8 cup instead of 1/4 cup), but i usually put less sugar than all recipe calls for. So taste and adjust the batter to your liking sweetness level okay.
- i use olive oil. Just because.
- i think if you prefer it more fudgy brownie than cakey, increase the oil level to 1/3 cup instead of 1/4 ?

DIY Instant Shawl

Too much hassle and no time to lilit2 shawl every morning, so you end up wearing yesterday's bawal?

Want to buy the latest craze instant shawls but they're kinda pricey and you don't want to restart your shawl collection all over again right. (Where will you put all your existing shawls - buy a new rack? Or looking at how many of them, maybe buy a new house?)

Here's what you can do: revamp your existing shawls into instant shawls :)

Basic Steps:
1. Own a shawl. I use my shawlbyvsnow basic essential shawls (rectangular cutting with curved ends), some non-label pasar rectangular shawls, and even a wide shawl,
2. If using wide shawl, fold to desired width, just like how you'd fold to wear it. Sew/hem the fold. Make it as neat as you can because this will be around your face and on top of your head.
3. Adjust like how you'd wear a shawl. Usually you'll have short end and long end (long end is the one you lilit around). Pin under your chin. Take it off, sew the short end from inside.
4. Put it on again, lilit and adjust the long end. Pin where necessary. Take shawl off again, careful to have the pins in place. Sew neatly along the edge of the long end where you have marked.
5. (Optional) add accessories.

So of course you can have variations in your diy instant shawl design. Like having pleats at one side, flower or beads accessories, etc.

Example: button and beads at corner.

I ended up making lots:

Cons: now each tudung need its own hanger.
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